Not you guys, you guys are great.
But in real life, my friendships that don't live in the computer?
Struggle.
The always amazing Rach wrote this post last week, and it really made me begin to re- evaluate some of my friendships. Life has taken a toll on them, and I'm not great about their maintenance.
We've moved. A lot. We live far away from where we work and go to church. I live near freaks. I was stuck in the house for like 9 months. I work crazy, unpredictable hours, and it wears me out. The list of excuses I have is a mile long.
I don't want a million acquaintances, but a few more would be nice. I have a few close friends, but I want a local BFF.
I broke up with two friends in the last few months. One was just using me, and the other wasn't healthy for me. But losing those two friends has left a void and I'm a little on the lonely side. I want someone to meet for coffee or shopping. I want someone to pray with, and who gets me.
And as much as I heart all of you, I need to be able to see her, hug her, hear her laugh. So either I'm going to have to stop being a reclusive workaholic, or I'm going to have to move.
To one of your cities.
Which would officially make me a stalker.... And probably scare you before we can even get to Starbucks.
I still have hope that Adele will call....
But in the meantime, if you have any tips on meeting friends, let me know. I think it's going to be harder than finding a husband.....
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Online friends have made me jaded towards my real-life friends, because they're the same ones I've had from high school . . . and they still act like they're in high school. Online friends are less whiny and needy and annoying.
Guess that means I have no tips for finding new friends. lol *hugs*
This is tough. Do you have any wives of your husbands friends you can start hanging out with?
It is much harder once we are older and out of school etc. I have found that I have lost a lot of friends as I've got older b/c they don't want to make the effort. BTW we got the Adele dvd and love it! Nolan has been dancing to it!
Oh Gawd, I wish I knew the answer to this. It feels like ALL of my friends are online nowadays. Even if not bloggy then we only interact on Facebook. Want to move here to Florida?
My latest attempt - we joined a new church. With lots of young kiddos like Jellybean.
I'm trying.
Wish I had better advice for you, but I'm obviously struggling too. It's gotten harder as a SAHM because not only do you have to click, but your kids need to be close to the same age and have a similar nap schedule. It's so hard. I've been looking for a local BFF myself too. I've tried church, but that seems to be the hardest place for me. Moms' groups are good and bad. I'm just hoping and praying that God will just literally dump her in my lap. I'm sorry. Wish I had better advice, but you know, there ARE plenty of children's stores here in Dallas...
YAY! you put in words (and in public) exactly what I have been feeling, I live rural, and recently have "broken up" with two really close friends, it hurt as much as any relationship breakup and made me think i need new real life friends too, so i got a new job in the nearest town, so far tho, theyre mostly idiots, but i feel better for getting out there and live in hope that Ill find some real life friends soon! good luck to you too! (ps, i found your blog while searching for "life recipe" haha!
I have been here. I am now very blessed with a great group of friends who get together non stop to do photo shoots, craft nights, dance parties, shopping trips, workout together- you name it. I was thinking just this morning how blessed I am- I will pray the same for you!
You might not believe this, but, I also don't have any friends. I mean, I have online friends, and I'm about to go to FL to hang out with some of my online friends, but I don't have anyone to go see movies with, or hang out at my house or eat dinner or anything. And I would even consider myself a friendly type. So, I am in need of the advice as well. Or for you to move here.
Or, you might totally believe I have no friends. Either way, move here, please. We've already done the awkward first date/meeting so, we're like, three steps ahead.
There's always Lebanon.....
Dude- Charlotte. Now.
That's tough. It's important to have those IRL connections. I wish I had some advice, but I have a hard time carving out time for people IRL. I think that God will provide your friendships. I know that one of my very best friends is someone God placed in my life, and I have nothing to do with it. It was at a time I really needed a new friend too. Five or six years later, I can't imagine life without her. She's a real friend!
Making new friends was so much easier when we were kids, wasn't it? I, too, am on the lookout for friends to hug and hang out with. Yes, I need a local BFF. I've lost touch with most of my friends, as most of them are school friends. And they all have their own lives now.
I wish you luck :)
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